| Lo Fun Fact #1 |
| "Lolita Files" is my real name. It is not a pen name, as incredible as that may seem. There are plenty of Files family members and people who have known me for years capable of validating this. As for the "Lolita" part, my mother named me after the movie based on Nabokov's book, although she saw or read neither. For as long as she lived, she had no idea there was anything sexual or seedy about being called "Lolita". |
| Lo Fun Fact #2 |
| I love fried chicken and fabulous shoes (although obviously I can't eat fried chicken nearly as much as I'd like). If you ever want to get on my good side, send Popeye's or Church's (that's right, I said Church's) and a pair of
Christian Louboutins. |
| Lo Fun Fact #3 |
| Never show up unannounced or without a Pepsi. Better yet, how about not showing up at all? |
| Lo Fun Fact #4 |
| I hate the telephone. Don't get mad if I don't call you or take a long time to return your calls. I don't call anyone. Don't call me asking why I don't call. Just don't call, okay? (Exception: I will happily take all calls related to business or to share fun/exciting/major news. I'm just not one for jawing on the phone just to be jawing.) |
| Lo Fun Fact #5 |
| I love the internet!!! I love communicating through the internet!!! You can e-mail me and odds are I'll e-mail you right back (if I'm not in the middle of a major project). Makes up for my hangup about the phone, doesn't it? See, I'm not so bad after all!!! |
| Lo Fun Fact #6 |
| I can't stand IMing. Please don't IM me. I'm always on my laptop and connected to the internet as I work and when IM's pop into my screen out of nowhere, they break my concentration and often startle the sh*t out of me in the process. So don't do it. You will get the cold shoulder. I don't like giving people the cold shoulder, so please don't put me in that position. |
| Lo Fun Fact #7 |
I have four five six wonderful, slap-happy dogs and a cat, all of whom I love to pieces. I had a bird (a Roller pigeon that I rescued in LA on New Year's Day in 2004) named B-Bird (what? that's a good name!) who passed away in February 2009, which broke my widdle heart in half. He loved me so, as I did him. If you meet me and ask me about my dogs and cat, we'll be instant friends, and if you ask about B-Bird, I'll probably hug you (unless you smell...wash first). If you meet me and ask me why the f*ck I have four five six dogs and a cat, see the above fun fact for how I will respond. |
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| Flip the switch |
| Tuesday, March 06, 2007 |
I was talking to a friend girl of mine yesterday who just started dating this guy. She was having a Q&A with him about his past behavior to try and get an idea what to expect from him. So she asks him whether he has ever cheated on any of his previous girlfriends. Dude manned up and said yeah, a few, but not all. Now here is where it gets interesting. He said that his logic was that as long as he was single that it was all good and that once he got married, he wouldn't do it anymore.
Is that right? So, brother thinks he can taste a variety of candy and then flip a switch and the desire for those flavors will melt off at the alter. Is it me, or is bruh-man living in wonderland? In my experience, the flavor lingers and it's not always as easy as one might think to get over. Even if you stay true to the game, I think you struggle with it at some point in time. What do you think? Is my logic anecdotal or is it true to form? Does it vary among the sexes? Are women better at monogamy or is it just the dudes that have a hard time keeping the goods to themselves? Talk to me people. I want to hear your voices.
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I have lusted in my heart and I plead the Fifth
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well, to start of with...he was a dumb ass to answer the question to start with. if you can't change the past, why look back to make him/her change? obviously, there's something there or you would be with that person to start with. build on that.
but back to that sista...
...HE PROBABLY DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH HER AND THIS WAS A "SIGN" TO LET HER KNOW, THAT HE STILL HAS HIS PLAYA CARD, TUCKED IN HIS WALLET, RIGHT BEHIND THE VISA.
when people, male/female, ask meaningless questions like this all it bring is insecurities.
case in point, she told you rich, right? so what's her point?
as far as monogamy, just have to be honest and truthful in all aspects of the relationship before/after you dun hit the draws and beyond, like joining finances and family responsiblities (kids & baby mamas). that latter shit, especially the finances, is what can kill most good bone sessions in bed. sex is all good, but the mo-fo forgot to pay the cable bill and it's reruns of "martin" again....lol
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I do believe it is easier for women, because most women if not all want to be married and in a stable relationship...now thats not to say that some men, or most men don't...it's just difficult, because I think your sex drive, desires sometimes dictate that playa mentality...yes i know we have some women playa too! But most of us would prefer to be one one.
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that's a fair statement by mizrep, but after you've been through the marriage/divorce thing, the kids are out of the house or in high school and your independent, holding down the house, most women are a little more defensive and agressive, cause they know what they want and not going to put up with the BS to have a man.
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well..i think that men place a value on having sex with more partners as part of our programming at early ages while women are taught to hold out until mr right comes along..
with the differences in rearing our young people, it only makes sense that women would be better at monogamous relationships
I don't quite get how women feel that their bodies are more important than a man's body though...not to stir up controversy...we feel like sharing our body is a gift(especially for those gifted at"puttin it down")
Great post brah!!
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That's a fair statement Lance, and for the most part true, but those same sisters STILL, want that man to come along. I don't disagree.
Now DC, where do we say that a woman's body is more important than a man's....just asking nicely, so no one thinks i'm coming out the box again (lol). I'm Miz NICETY today!
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I, like Juan, will plead the Fifth.
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c'mon Miz..almost every woman that i ever knew talks like giving it up should be the best present that she could bestow on the lowly man-things...
u disagree with that..ask some of your girls?
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